Things I wish someone told me

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how lonely and isolating the widowhood journey truly is. Whether you’re 20, 40, or 70, widowhood hurts, devastates, and tears you down to your knees. Humans love to fall into routines and patterns - find peace and comfort in it even – and death strips it all away, …

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Last night I had a Brandon dream. They’re so rare, so infrequent. The exact events of the dream are foggy at this point, but what I remember is Brandon was suddenly back, alive, breathing, and talking. It was like he went away on a long trip somewhere far, far away and had no access or …

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When on earth do I bring up the widowed thing?

When I pictured what my life was going to look like, being a military spouse was never something I thought about when contemplating the various scenarios that could be my life. Why would I? I never wanted to leave the town that was home, I was in a long-term relationship with a wonderful guy I …

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